After the death of Diane I knew I wanted to remarry. I had some problems at first. I was told I should wait for a year? I asked my pastor what should I do, he said," that if I got married again it would be a testimony to Diane". It would show how great a marriage we had. If we had a terrible marriage, most people wouldn't want to get married again! After hearing that I decided to get married again! When she was Diagnosed with cancer she and I talked about what I should do. Her idea of a wife for me was not what I had in mind. I had friends that were setting me up, one with that than another. I started to have real problems, not that I had too many choices, but the ones they were setting me up with were not what I had in mind.
Finally after going out with the wrong type, I finally did what I should have done from the beginning? I got on my knees in the family room, and asked God to bring my perfect helpmate to me! It was only about a week, when a friend of Diane's called and asked If she could come down to visit me and the kids. She wanted to make us a meal! I said" sure"?! When Cathy and Mark arrived the next week, we had a great meal and started to talk about my plans. I told them how I felt, that I should remarry. Mark made the comment that Cindy and I would make a good couple, after all she likes guys with beards! I told them they could give her my name, and if she wanted to, she could call me! (this is the 90's)
After a couple of weeks I received a letter in the mail. Cindy had sent me a really nice letter and asked me to reply. Me, not knowing what to write about, I picked up the phone and called directory assistance and got her phone number. We talked for awhile. I found out that her husband had died in a car accident, about a year earlier. We had something in common that we could relate to. She also was a Born Again Christian. that gave us even more in common.
A week had gone by and I was on the way home from putting flowers on Diane's grave, twilight was setting in, and than it happened. In a second, that seemed like a year had passed, an 80year old man walked in front of my car. I had no chance to stop! I can still see him bouncing off the windshield, and lying on the road! I lost it, I couldn't believe this was happening to me! This had to be a bad dream! Why me, I just wanted to get home, in a twinkling of an eye it was all over! The police, the rescue squad, the witness, the trip to the hospital, It had to be a bad dream! The investigation, the friends, my family, my Daughter, my Pastor. Only God could get a person through this kind of sorrow.
A month had passed, Mothers day, my children gave me the Mothers day flowers that the sitter gave to all the children. They were to give them to their mother. I never knew how much flowers meant before! I sat at home feeling sorry for myself and than I remembered, Cindy, she had written me. I received the letter 2 days after the accident and did not reply. I had to call her and wish her a happy mothers day, She has two children and no one but family.
We talked for three hours, and we kept in touch, the next week Cindy thought it might be a good idea to meet some time to have something to eat. We set the time and place. We met for the first time that night, it was a Friday, my parents took the kids and her parents watched her. I came with a dozen roses (red). We went to dinner and tried to talk to each other, I thought it was a disaster! After dinner I took her home. She wanted to show me the new home she just bought. We stopped in, and she became very talkative. Then she suggested going to a movie at midnight. We did and had a great time together.
We then went back to her place, and watched TV. and talked some more. At 4:00am I asked her if she wanted to go for breakfast? We went to an all night diner. Than back to her place. At 8:00am I thought I had better go home. What do you think the neighbors were thinking, and it was an hour and a half ride! We kept in touch by phone on week days and weekends we would take turns, her coming down here or me going up there.
Finally (two months latter) on July 29th we got married!! Only our LORD could have done this. When I sit back and take in all that has happened in our lives it could only be Jesus! I believe that it was our LORD that put us together. She has been a very special inspiration in my life! She has taught me more about myself than anyone else could, and is a very knowledgeable person on the Word of God. With her encouragement I have gotten a closer walk with my Lord and Savior. She is truly a helpmate in the terms of the Bible. If she wouldn't have stood behind me, I know I would not have left the Lord use me as he has!